Why “No” can be the best word you will ever hear
I am an avid dreamer. If you are like me, you understand that we feel like we can do anything we put our minds to, and actually, I think you are correct. The fact of the matter is that although we can do anything we probably shouldn’t. Have you ever applied for a job and you knew it was a stretch but you did it anyway? I did that and I got the interview. I hopped on a plane when my daughter was just 2 years old. I was a bit older so I think I felt like this job interview was an opportunity to prove myself. I was eager to show off my ability to be a super boss and show the world what they had been missing. Dolled up in my now 2 sizes larger Tahari pinstriped suit, Ferragamo gray heels and a coach tote, I waltzed into the office of this unsuspecting company ready to take on the world. I prepared for that interview. I knew every answer, every statistic, every response like I was taking the GMAT test to get into Grad School. I even did a presentation and I had great engagement. The final part of the interview was a meeting with the hiring manager to discuss how the job worked logistically. I went into the office and gazed at the 2 screens on the manager’s desk. The manager rattled on about the process of scheduling each international trainer and the opportunities to move up across the organization but all I saw was myself with a fancy packed bag traveling all over the world. I pictured my beautiful baby girl’s face in my mind sitting at home and then I looked back at those 2 screens. Did I choose the baby or the boss? I walked out of the room lighter than I had been in a long time because I was clear. I understood what I wanted and why I wanted it. I said NO to this opportunity. “No” was the word I needed to hear from myself.
- Sometimes you must sit with yourself and understand the true reasons you want to do a thing.
- No is a complete sentence, and it does not mean forever it can be a “no” for now.
- Understand why you do the things you do.
- Know when to say “no” and it can be the most freeing word on your joy journey
