Assume good intentions

Yolanda Spearman – The Friend

 

Have you ever had a friend go wonky on you?  I mean that moment when your friend stops talking and they start acting funny all of a sudden and you have absolutely no idea why.  We have all been there.  It’s worse when it happens at an event or on a trip.  You can feel like you are experiencing a break-up as your mouth hangs open wondering what in the world happened.  So what to do?  Talk about them like a dog…….. no no no.  I am just kidding.  Those who know me understand my humor.  And at first, this is generally what we all do.  We talk about the person because we don’t understand the pain.  Now I am not a counselor my sister holds that title but I am human and it hurts when people act crazy.  At the same time, we must understand that people are walking around carrying a ton of stuff in their personal backpacks.  Pain, loss, hurt, and insecurities burden everyone differently.  Sometimes the burdens crush the person under its load and because of its invisibility we as unwitting foes feel the anguish of their despair.    Friends don’t buckle under a little pressure.   Deep foundations build tall towers.

• Assume good intentions with your friend who has been acting a little annoying.
• Talk to them not about them.
• Be a friend.
• Apologize, maybe you did something that unknowingly added to their burden. Maybe you did nothing at all.
• This applies to any relationship.